As I was struggling to take four months of newspapers out of my trunk to deposit them in the recycling bin, a woman in a raincoat tapped me on the shoulder.
“Do you need some help?”
“What I need is NOT to carry all these papers at once – I need to take two trips,” I said, picking up stray inserts that had fallen on the wet ground. I admit it, I was angry with myself for looking like I needed help.
She graciously grabbed the boxes out of my trunk. “Well, I’m going this way anyway, so I’ll take your cardboard.”
“Thank you,” I called after her. Almost as an afterthought.
I thought about my reaction to her original offer all the way home from the dump yesterday. Why is it so hard to say, “Yes, please, I’d like some help.”
As writers, there are so many avenues available for help. There are award winning authors, successful agents, and prolific editors all online offering their FREE assistance. There are critique websites, contests, and organizations available to help you improve your craft. Critique partners and groups offer invaluable feedback and suggestions to improve our stories, and writing.
Are we really accepting all the help offered? Or is it easier to say, “No thank you, I can do this on my own.”
How do you react when someone offers you help? And how often do you offer to help another?